Ceremony Sample: Love & Marriage, Revised 5-4-2021

Introductory Reading

An author once wrote: Being in love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just “being in love”, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow toward each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.

Welcome Message

We have been invited here today by NAME and NAME to share with them this very personal, very significant moment in their lives. In the time they have been together, their friendship, love and understanding of each other have continued to grow, and now they have decided to live their lives together as a married couple.

Readings

Each of you are influenced by numerous factors in your lives: your upbringing and family, your friends, your past choices, experiences and your own self esteem. Through all of these things, and sometimes in spite of these things, you each have grown enough to recognize the value in yourselves and your relationship – that you are both deserving of love and worth the effort that goes into loving and caring for each other.

Many people get married believing a myth that marriage will magically bring them all the joys in life: companionship, friendship, romance; family, fulfillment, laughter and happiness; financial security and help with housework. It would be great if it worked that way!

The truth is that a marriage is only as good as people make it. When the excitement of the wedding and the honeymoon wear off, there has to be something more to draw from. Each of you must continue to add kindness, love, appreciation, compassion, sharing and all the other virtues you imagine a marriage must include.

There is no love in marriage. Love is in people. And people must choose to put love in their marriage. There is no romance in marriage; people have to add romance and passion to their marriage, and stay interested in each other.

When you love someone, you put things into the relationship, you give, you invest, you nurture, you build. You don’t just put in what is meaningful to you: you put in the things that are meaningful to your partner. You have to learn what speaks love to each other in the things you do and say. If you make the effort, you will find yourselves in a great marriage that will grow and last for all of your years together.

Declaration of Intent

Before you say your vows, NAME and NAME, look at one another. Remember that you are here today together, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by another person fully, without limitation. No other ties are more tender, no other vows more sacred than those you now assume.

Do you, NAME and NAME, desire to be married? Do you promise to love, comfort, respect and be faithful to each other, for as long as you both live? “We do.” [Note, this is said together.]

Vows

Do you have the ring? As you place the ring on NAME’s finger, please repeat:

“I, NAME, take you, NAME, to be my wife/husband/partner.
I promise to care for you,
to trust and respect you,
to share myself with you,
and grow with you,
for as long as we both live.”

“I give you this ring
as a symbol of my commitment
and my love for you.”

(Repeat for other partner)

Closing

What you have promised today must be renewed and re-decided tomorrow. You must still decide, each day that stretches out before you, that you want to be married, that you want to keep the love between you growing.

Love makes burdens lighter, because you share them. Love makes joys more intense, because you share them. Love makes you stronger, so you can reach out and become involved with life in ways you dared not risk alone.

May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.
May you have love, and may you find it loving one another!

Announcement

NAME and NAME, it is my honor, in the presence of these witnesses, to now pronounce you married partners for life/husband and wife.
Congratulations! You may kiss!

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